Kansas University has published a new article on ‘making friends’. According to the article, you have to spend 50 hours with him to accept someone as a friend.
Benefist&Damages – A study conducted at the University of Kansas in the USA revealed that we were applying some criteria for friendship. According to a survey by professor Jeffrey Hall, professor of communication, you have to spend an average of 50 hours with him in order to accept someone as an ordinary friend. The average time it takes you to feel comfortable with someone next to you and raise it to your “friend” status is 90 hours. An average of 200 hours will allow you to consider your friend as your close friend.
HOW DOES THE RESEARCH HAVE BEEN?
For the first part of the research, Professor Hall asked 429 volunteers to fill out the questionnaire online. In the last six months, a new city has moved from these volunteers to demand that they choose a new one they have met. The survey asked volunteers how long they had met with that person, what they did when they spent time together, how much time they spent together in the previous week, and how often they spent a week. He added that the volunteers had a degree of proximity to the communication they had established with their chosen people, how long they had passed through the process of being friends from familiarity, and how long after that person saw the person as one of their best friends.
PERSONAL FRIENDLY: CLOSED ENVIRONMENTAL COMMUNICATION
In the second part of the research, the professor who surveyed 112 newcomers to the university asked them to choose one they met on campus and tell them how much time they spent with that person over the past few weeks and how close they felt to them.
As Professor Hall notes, it is not always possible to assess the contribution of a person to friendship in an equal way. The communication we have established with our neighbors, such as campus environment or business environment, is defined as “indoor communication” when we want to be in contact with someone in the research, and when we communicate without being obliged, “choosing to communicate” is defined.
Responding to CNN’s questions, Professor Hall explains this distinction on the subject of friendship: “We communicate with people in the workplace, at school or in our apartment because we are obliged, and if we do not want to be friends with that person, we keep our communication at the minimum possible level and we are careful not to exceed the limits of courtesy.”
3 TO 9 WEEKS REQUIRED
Indeed, we all know that even though we have worked for the same office for 200 hours, we are once again our colleagues who we have not spoken in our free time. According to some researches, it takes three to nine weeks to pass the acquaintance between two people to friendship level. If you are not still friends after three or four months of your meeting, you are unlikely to be friends with that person.
Professor Hall thinks that when we have a change in your life we need more friends than normal and we have deeper connections in such times: “It’s a provable fact that we have started a new job, started a new school year or moved to a new place, that is, when we are suddenly exchanged, we have made more friends in the course of time.”
“The transition to a new experiment shows that people who live in the immediate vicinity of the potential contacts can decide quickly who they want to be friends with. In other words, if you have not been friends with someone after a while since you were introduced to someone, there is probably a reason for that.”
According to Cari Fromm, a reporter on CNN, one of the most important results of the research is as follows: Although there is a correlation between feeling close to one and spending time with it, there is no correlation between being close to one person and spending time talking to that person. This finding can comfort people who are interested in going to a quiet spot and sitting quietly for hours.